Child Visitation

This blog is for the parent who broke up the family, and hurt the children's feelings in a divorce involving child custody - a regrettable battle. There are some things a parent can do to help mend hurting children.

• In addition to paying child support, take your son or daughter to buy a new pair of shoes. Kids must eat their shoes, because they always need a new pair.
• Take your children to buy Summer clothes [bathing suit], school clothes [blue jeans & tops / shirts ], a winter coat and a thick winter blanket. I know a computer engineer who buys used clothing, with the fancy label, at Goodwill Stores and Marshals. Buy the coat when it first threatens to get cold, when it is on sale.
• Show up to see your kids when you promised.
• Take your children to a pizza place when you pick them up. Spend $20 on pizza, let them choose the kind of pizza, and let them talk.
• Take your daughter and son to the Dollar Store and let them choose a toy.
• Take your child to a book store and let them choose a book to buy and read.
• Call your child's teacher, on her break, and find out what's going on at school.
• Call your child or see you child on every birthday, get the child a present.
• Christmas is special to children, make it so for yours.
• Buy postcards and cards in advance, and every now and then spend the money for a stamp and send one to your children.
• Plan something for a visitation Saturday, other than cleaning house. Get out, go to a movie, or to the lake, or something else fun.

 None of this requires anyone to be a big spender.  All of it will help children mend their emotions, learn to make decisions for themselves, and help the parent be a better person.